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Giving yourself more time to process this

Is the problem triggering any anger in you?

Anger fulfils a very important role. It reminds us that:

Anger is not the only feeling that makes it difficult to clearly communicate needs. Some of the other feelings showing that we are struggling with our needs are feeling depressed, guilty or feeling shame.

When we are clearer what our needs are and what we can do to meet our needs we can transform feelings of anger, depression, guilt or shame. 

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