what's behind the problem? amber traffic light observe and prepare

What I need is...

safety, security, peace etc -protection
respect, recognition, trust etc -empathy
knowledge, order, reassurance etc -clarity
fairness, justice, cooperation etc -equity
choice, freedom, integrity etc -autonomy
food, rest, space etc -subsistence
fun, ease, relaxation etc -play
connection, support, participation etc -community
care, affection, closeness etc -love
purpose, creativity, growth etc -meaning

Perhaps you might copy the needs list (above) to a draft document & then begin the sentence:

The needs that are important to the situation between me & the other person(s) are my needs for.....